People’s perception of sex has evolved over a period of time. An activity that was considered to be a social taboo in the public domain is discussed as an open topic nowadays. Be it the debate of allowing sex workers to appear on silver screen or the banning of porn sites, sex has transgressed from confinement and entered the public sphere.
Yet, there are several questions revolving around the notion of sex that cannot be asked in the open. These questions can neither be discussed with friends nor gynecologists. It’s something embedded in the mind and is hard to frame in terms of words.
Probably, the fear of being judged overpowers the quest for seeking answers to mental conflicts related to sex.
However, if not resolved timely, it can hinder the sex drive.
So before it affects your sex life, here are some of the most prominent questions regarding sex that float in the mind of many, but only few speak about it.
Q. Why does a woman take longer than a man to reach the peak of climax?
Well, we are aware of the fact that a woman takes longer period of time than a man to reach to the epitome of satisfaction. While an average male orgasm lasts six seconds, the female orgasm lasts as long as 20 seconds. Also, the volume and quantity of a female orgasm is higher than a male orgasm.
So men, please be patient with your woman. As patience is the key to success. The longer you wait the better result you reap.
Q. Is she/he anticipating a move from my end?
The question of who will be the initiator will always dominate the mind of the partner. While the girl would want the boy to initiate, the boy would expect the girl to make the first move.
It all depends on the level of comfort one shares with their partner. Often the notion of being judged threatens the mind of the initiator. However there is nothing wrong in being the first one.
At least you can brag about it to her later.
Q. Is he/she open to experiments?
Usual sexual encounter gets boring after a period of time. Practicing the same position and move on bed, over and over again, can lead to a decrease in sex drive. Thus experiments are a must in every relation.
However, it is accompanied by a risk. One is always uncertain of the fact whether the partner will accept the new change or find it odd or regressive in nature.
Q. The curious case of the wrong hole!
Men love anal sex.
Every man fantasizes to experience anal sex with his partner.
However, this may or may not be a good idea from your woman’s perspective.
Thus this question arises in almost every man’s mind, whether the girl would willingly volunteer to try both the options and enjoy the same.
Q. Am I better than his/her ex?
Insecurity, an urban lifestyle problem, is a cause of many failed relationships. Due to multiple partner engagement in the past, your partner can always feel insecure about the commitment and the performance.
Well, past cannot be erased, but there is a fear in the mind of partners who feel that they are being constantly compared to their partner’s ex.
It would often prove to be lethal for a relationship.
Q. Does pregnancy means no sex?
Many believe that sex during pregnancy is not a good option. However that’s not true.
Till the time the woman is comfortable having sex, one can engage in the art of love making.
The only thing one has to ensure is that the sex is not aggressive in nature, nor does it have any adventurist stunts. These could exert a strain on the baby and may result in something bad.
Q. What if she gets pregnant?
Even though proper measure of protection are adopted to ensure there are no ‘oops’ moment in the act, the fear of pregnancy always rule the mind post sex.
What if the condom broke or the condom doesn’t promise 100% protection are examples of some of the questions related to this query.
This fear fades with the onset of periodic cycle
Q. Will I be able to meet his/her level of expectation?
No matter how good you may be in bed, if you can’t satisfy your partner then what is the point.
Every person wants to meet the expectation of their partner. Else feelings like insecurity and inferiority crawl into the relation and ruin its happiness.
Q. How do I make her/him feel comfortable being around me?
If a relation is not comforting, it becomes suffocating. One needs to be comfortable with their partners, to enjoy a good relation.
The greater the comfort level, the stronger the relation.
Hence, every partner wants their counterpart to be comfortable in their company.
This question can only be answered through actions, not words.